I had a few topics in mind this morning, but in the end something in my stomach (no not last night's dinner) kept telling me I needed to write this particular blog, which I have entitled: "The Essential You!" I am dedicating this blog to a very special woman who played a much greater part in my personal redemption than she will ever know. This blog is for you Avis! I hope you enjoy it.
I'm reasonably confident that most people who know me well, might give me many labels or names, but "new-age" or "wishy-washy" probably wouldn't be among them, so all I'm just asking you to do is to briefly suspend judgement on what I'm saying here and to approach it with a totally open mind.
When we were children we had absolutely no cares or concerns about the future, about what people thought about us, or indeed about what the purpose of our life was. We lived totally, 100% in the present, absorbed in whatever task or hobby, or toy that gave us pleasure and happiness. Somewhere along the way we lost that ability to enjoy the moment, to revel in the things that gave us pleasure. Why did we lose that sheer joy in living, that ability to find fun and enjoyment in the simplest of things. When did we stop having fun and start taking this thing called life, so seriously?
For most of us the subtle brainwashing began when we were very young. Our parents would tell us what their dreams and plans were for our future. When we went to school we were told to "stop day-dreaming", to "concentrate on the lessons" and what was the most important thing that was drilled into us at school; "life isn't fair kids". Our youthful enthusiasm and idealism generally managed to keep these voices at bay and we continued to enjoy our passions and our hobbies right up until it was time to graduate high-school. So, then what happened?
The question I want to pose here is a simple one; Did the pursuit of society's model life for us, make us happy? Everyone's answer no doubt will be different, but I suggest you look around and just ask yourself truthfully; am I happy? Do I jump out of bed with enthusiasm and joy every morning to greet the new day? Do I approach each day with an intense desire to discover new experiences, to make a difference in people's lives and to live that day with all the passion I have inside of me? If the answer to any of those questions is no, then there is something inherently wrong - and you know it!
You won't find a solution, to any lack of meaning, in the outside world. The world, and other people are - just what they are. You can't change them and you shouldn't expend your valuable energy trying to. The solution to finding meaning is inside of you! The only way to truly live as we were all meant to live - happily and joyfully, is inside of you. You need to rediscover the essential you - you need to stop acting and conforming to other's expectations and act and conform to who you really are.
You are incredibly special - you are a unique individual who has creative talents and abilities that nobody else that has ever lived or will ever live, has. When we realize that we are limitless in our potential then we actually can change the world. If we live to our own potential - if we become who we really are, instead of a facade or a mask that we put on every morning we will live a life that is infinitely happier and more joyous than we do now. Imagine the effect of that on your loved ones, your work colleagues, your friends. They will marvel at this free, happy, contented you and as the famous line from; "When Harry Met Sally" went, they also will say: "I'll have some of what she's having". Find the essential you and be an inspiration to the world!
When you make this change inside of you, don't be at all surprised when outside circumstance, situations, and opportunities suddenly magically start to conform to the new essential you. While I realize that some people are hesitant to believe that they can change their outside environment just by changing themselves, the reality is that is exactly what happens. If you are skeptical, what do you have to lose by giving it a try? - Oh that's right you have all that angst, worry, irritation, anger, annoyance, sadness, grief, and disappointment to lose. Well, we wouldn't want that to happen - now would we?
This journey all starts with rediscovering the essential you. The key to the process is to develop a deep love for yourself - who you are! You are not defined by the past, by your actions or the circumstances of your past. You are not defined by what happened to you or was done to you before. You, the essential you, is perfect in every way. How often do you hear people say; "Oh, I'll be happy when we have that new house; or I'll be happy when we finally get the kids through College; or I'll be happy when we retire? What a crock! We were not born to suffer, we were not born to struggle - we were born to be the very best us, we can possibly be. There is no need for self-improvement - there's nothing broken, you are already perfect. What you have to do is accept it and love yourself for the perfect being you are.
If you find the essential you, and live every day in the sure and certain knowledge that you are a wonderful, special human being that has all the abilities and talents unique to you, then you can be happy now!
Just for a moment, I would ask you to dream as John Lennon once did when he wrote the song Imagine. Just imagine if everyone in your circle of life lived their lives to the fullest of their abilities; if everyone you knew was being who they really were and not some conditioned robot conforming to partner's, their peers, or society's expectations - imagine how much happier and joyous everyone's daily life would be.
So, give it a go! Make the change! You can only change one person - YOU!
Rediscover the essential you and "change the world - one life at time".